A friend of my daughter was murdered last night. She was just 16 years old. Her brother stabbed her and a friend who was with her. The friend is fighting for her life in hospital.
What I can’t get over is the fact that my daughter slept over at this friend’s place a few times. The friend’s friend, the one who was stabbed and is fighting for her life in hospital, could easily be my daughter.
(I wrote the above the day after it happened. It’s now a few days later and I guess I’ll finish this blog entry and post it.)
I just checked Google news for an update. There’s nothing new. I have to say, though, that looking over all the headlines felt a little surreal.
“16-year-old teenage girl stabbed to death on Tsawwassen reserve: police”
“Teenager charged with murder after girl’s fatal stabbing”
“17-year-old male charged with murder, attempted murder in Tsawwassen …”
“Stabbing suspect believed to be slain girl’s 17-year-old brother”
“Girl dead, one critically hurt in Tsawwassen stabbing”
Is this really about the beautiful girl who was once good friends with my daughter? A girl who slept in my daughter’s bedroom?
It’s been a few days now and I am still absolutely shocked. This sort of thing just doesn’t happen.
This murder is the latest chapter in a sad, sad, story. (Please keep in mind that much of what follows is hearsay.)
Jade’s mother was struck and killed by a motor vehicle some years ago. Her father had trouble dealing with it and Jade was placed in foster care. It was while Jade was in foster care, that Jade and my daughter met and became good friends. Jade was unhappy in foster care, however, and wanted very much to move back in with her dad. Eventually, that was allowed to happen, and Jade moved to Tsawwassen, where her dad lived.
My daughter and Jade continued to be friends and I made quite a few trips out to Tsawwassen, which is a long drive. On my first trip out I went in to meet the Dad, as parents are wont to do, and he seemed like a nice enough guy. The word was that he and his brother owned Splashdown Park, a waterslide park in Tsawwassen. I don’t know how true that is, but my daughter was Jade’s guest at the waterslides several times.
I never met Jade’s brother. I never even knew there was a brother. He did not live with his Dad. I’m hearing now that he was really messed up and there was a restraining order against him. Supposedly he was off his meds, waited until the father left the house, and then showed up demanding money. When he didn’t get it he stabbed Jade and her friend. Jade died shortly thereafter, and her friend is in critical condition in hospital but is expected to live.
If there is one small, silver lining in all of this it’s that Jade and my daughter had grown apart somewhat over the last year or so. Jade disappeared for a time. Ostensibly she went back east for a while, to live with a relative, but who knows.
Nonetheless, my daughter is understandably quite upset. She, of course, got the news via facebook shortly after it happened.
I feel terrible for Jade, who had her whole life ahead of her. I also feel terrible for her Dad, who has now lost a wife, a daughter, and, to a degree, a son as well. The whole thing is just so tragic.
And yet another reminder of just how fragile life is.